the most disrespectful argument i think i’ve ever gotten from a pro-life is the oftquoted “well if you can be pro-choice can’t i choooOOOooOOose to disagree?”
if you are personally anti-abortion and therefore “would not get an abortion myself!!!!!!!! EVER!!!!!!!!1!,” (usually…
But…that baby inside of a pregnant woman is not part of her body, it’s just inside of her. Big deal. It seems people have forgotten about ADOPTION.
people have not just FORGOTTEN ABOUT ADOPTION!!!!!!!!!!1!11111!1111
no. first of all, you seem to not understand how babies are made. abbreviated version: an ova (egg), when fertilized attaches itself to the uterine lining (that’s the gross bloody stuff that comes out of your vagina when you’re not pregnant and have a period). attached. so no, the womb isn’t just some tupperware container that people stick a baby inside and then pop open after nine months like some kind of super microwave. (WHAT)
when a woman is pregnant, she undergoes significant bodily changes. aside from the magical microwave part that we see (the stomach swelling, for those of us who don’t seem to think that the womb can be likened to rubbermaid), the mother now needs to feed two growing lifeforms - herself, and the fetus. in addition, hormones being sent to the womb and all over the body are going CARAZAY which is why pregnant women tend to have cravings, like pickles and m&ms, or go on rampages, like my type professor last year. so yes, the fetus is actually a part of her body. it is a part of her body until the umbilical cord connecting the mother to the child is cut at which point it is now a fully functional being. (fully functional, of course, being a relative term - unlike some wild animals, babies still require their mothers for much longer than a few days. we’re a weak species, believe it or not.)
so now that some ~science has actually come into this discussion i hope you’ll understand once again this disparity
these are NOT THE SAME THING!
now, anyway. adoption.
well, adoption isn’t easy. first- the mother, who obviously you see as a plastic baby container, so idk if this is going to be of interest, can suffer extreme grief and depression symptoms. giving a baby up for adoption is a massive toll on the mother. it’s expensive, sometimes, and it requires emotional support, which many mothers do not have.
now let’s think about our tupperware resident. i am not adopted and while i have many friends who are adopted and are healthy and happy, it also have a few friends who were adopted and it’s given them some pretty heavy emotional baggage. i am not an expert (um, my guess is neither are you) so i don’t want to speak too much about emotional repercussions of adoption but here’s a site that can help you understand.
more importantly: adoption doesn’t stop a few things. if the mother is in danger, she can’t just lift the baby out of its tupperware to save herself. or rather, she can (in a looooooose comparison) but it’s called an abortion. in cases of rape, a mother may undergo severe psychological trauma that could result in her harming herself because she is carrying her rapist’s baby. so yeah, adoption, sure, easy, big deal. how about the nine months between?
finally, your use of the words “big deal” is kind of troubling. having a fetus inside you is a big deal. it means that your body is going to change. your mind is going to change. your hungers, your desires, your personality, your bone structure… you are going to change. and that doesn’t erase itself with adoption, nor does it erase itself with an abortion, nor does it erase itself with a happy and healthy birth that results in a family sitting around a campfire singing kumbaya. the fact is that each mother will undergo her own changes, and that you have no business telling me or any other woman what i can and cannot define as a “big deal,” especially when it comes to my uterus.
so if you have anything to say back to me i’d be interested. my ask is open. i just would hope that you come with slightly more background knowledge than you’re showing here.